Finding yourself is not exactly how healing works. You aren’t lost. Your truth and whole self is right inside of you; buried under cultural training, others thoughts and opinions, and you own mistaken conclusions that you’ve drawn about who you genuinely are. Finding yourself is actually rediscovering and returning to yourself. An unbecoming, an unlearning, an archaeology site for recollecting who you were before society took ahold of you.
Know that everyday you are being presented with a choice: grow or stay. Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing. If you choose to remain unmovable, you will be presented with the same encounters, challenges, routines, storms, and situations, until you learn from them. You will continue to be asleep until you love yourself enough to say no more, until you choose to move. When you choose to evolve, you connect with the vigor within you and discover what lies outside of the safe zone. You will awaken to love, become yourself fully and rise up to your potential. You have everything that you require to evolve, shift and love.
Sometimes there is this energetic space where you’re no longer a caterpillar and not yet a butterfly. You’ve climbed the mountain and resting on the plateau. You don’t know who you are exactly and you’re not sure where you’re going, just that every thread of yourself is calling for transformation, interference, and revolution of your soul to surrender and breakdown to the uncomfortableness. This is not death; it is the dying of who you once were. This is your Rebirth.
Feel the feelings but don’t become the emotions. Witness. Allow. Release.
As you allow yourself to release your burdens, and as you allow yourself to separate from others imposed expectations, you will find detachment and discernment. This doesn't doesn’t mean you're not caring. It's the highest form of love. It’s taking care of yourself first and letting others take responsibility for themselves without trying to save or punish them. You are gifting yourself and others the opportunity to take back the inner power and to uphold holy truths. When look at another’s behavior towards you as a reflection of their relationship with themselves, rather than a statement about your value, then you will eventually learn to not be effected.
Healing is about letting go of everything that isn’t you, all of the expectations, all of the false stories and hindering beliefs and embracing all that you are. Our higher self and spirit already know what to do to heal and our challenge is to silence the mind. Taking control of our thoughts and navigating our emotions with wisdom we will find peace.
Cheers to Wellness!